One day, not too long ago, I was sitting in the living room, reading to my grandchildren. A single fly buzzed around the room. As the fly attempted to exit through the closed window, the children and I stopped. It was fascinating, and a little sad to watch. The open door nearby was no use as the fly backed up and dove for the window over and over again. Not wanting to see the poor fly suffer any longer, we used a broom to direct him out the door and he was gone. This reminded me of a similar scenario that Rob Williams, the creator of PSYCH-K wrote about in his book, The Missing Piece Peace in Your Life.
That little fly was determined against all odds to escape through the closed window. Being a fly, he had no idea that his efforts were fruitless. He kept on pushing. It occurred to me that we humans do this as well.
Old habits die hard, as they say, and choosing a new solution to an old problem is rarely an easy task. Often we have to endure emotional and even physical pain, before we realize that there must be a better way. Chronic stress, poor body image, emotional eating and addictive behaviors can inspire self-defeating choices. We try harder and harder to solve our problem, but our vision is clouded. Just like the poor fly, we bang into the glass over and over again. All the while, an open door is within reach, but completely out of sight.
Rob Williams suggests trying smarter and not harder when attempting to make lasting changes. I agree. By now we know that we can’t solve a problem with the same thinking that created it, often times smarter means to address the problem in a new way. However, first we must identify the real problem. If losing weight is your goal and it's hard to eat well when stressed, then the problem isn’t actually your inability to make healthy food choices. The problem is stress!
When we are stressed, we tend to react out of fear. Adrenaline takes over and prevents us from acting with clarity, intention and wisdom. As we acknowledge the root of the problem and apply the healing remedy, triggers release and thinking clears. Now that the mind is open, we can breathe and reassess. Solutions appear in the space that is cleared.
If the window is closed, try the door.
The saying goes, “If you’re hysterical, it’s likely historical.” In my work with clients, I find that chronic stress frequently indicates deeper issues. As a Modern Stress Management Specialist, I can help you release stress and resolve the underlying issues that are holding you hostage.
"I always knew that it wasn't just about what and when I eat and how much I exercised. There were deeper reasons why I held onto weight and why I put it on in the first place.......I had some major breakthroughs and we did deep work together.....I feel a freedom that is priceless." ~ Amber, Oregon
If you are struggling with chronic stress, poor body image, emotional eating and addictive behaviors I can help you get to the root of your stress! Call or email me for a free consultation, and together we will open doors that lead to physical and emotional freedom. I look forward to hearing from you!